We tell our congregants that on Shabbat we hold two commandments sacred: “shamor v’zachor” – protect and remember. But to truly create a sacred space in the home for Shabbat, we must have a home that is at peace; a home of loving, healthy relationships and connections; a home where love is protected. During February 2016, we invite you and your congregation to celebrate a very special Shabbat – a Shabbat of “Shamor L’Amour."

JWI’s Clergy Task Force to End Domestic Abuse has created a toolbox of resources that will help your congregation discuss, explore and celebrate healthy relationships. 

The 2016 Shamor L'amour committee includes: Rabbi Leah Citrin (chair), Rabbi Howard Cohen, Cantor Debbie Katchko-Gray and Rabbi Steven Reuben, PhD.

Why a Healthy Relationship Shabbat?

  • It’s time to encourage new ways of talking about what “health” means in 21st century relationships. Even if we’re not experiencing domestic violence/partner abuse, our closest relationships deserve our undivided attention, and maybe even some preventive maintenance. 
  • A Shabbat devoted to healthy relationships can launch conversations that counterbalance the unhealthy relationships – fictional and actual – that abound in the media. 
  • Beyond equality for women, it’s time to start negotiating the balance that defines gender parity.
  • Sometimes we need help asking our partners questions that lead to new ways of looking toward the future – like “How do we inspire and protect each other?” and “What do we owe one another in terms of happiness and spiritual growth?”
  • Shabbat lets us fence off time to address with our partners the big questions about honor, loyalty, trust, boundaries, and goals that can get lost in the frenzy of daily life.

Materials include sermon sparks for each Shabbat in February and our discussion guide, "Rethinking Shabbat: Women, Relationships and Jewish Texts"

Participating Synagogues and Organizations


Rabbi Jonathan Sadoff
Kehillat Magen Avraham
Omer, Israel

Rabbi Donna Kirshbaum
Omer, Israel

Cara Frazin
Bat Melech
Jerusalem, Israel

Rav Sean Gorman
Pride of Israel Synagogue
Toronto, Canada

Rabbi Jordan Helfman
Holy Blossom Temple
Toronto, Canada

Rabbi Nicole K. Roberts
North Shore Temple Emanuel
Sydney, Australia  

Rabbi Gesa S. Ederberg
Gemeinderabbinerin der Juedischen Gemeinde zu Berlin
Synagoge Oranienburger Strasse
Berlin, Germany


Rabbi Jessica Rosenthal
Temple B'rith Shalom
Prescott, Arizona


Rabbi Michelle Missaghieh
Temple Israel
Hollywood, Los Angeles, CA

Rabbi Sarah Bassin
Temple Emanuel of Beverly Hills
Beverly Hills, CA

Ms. Glenda Sacks Jaffe
Hillel of San Diego
San Diego, CA

Ms. Leah Kahn
Berkeley Hillel
Berkeley, CA

Ms. Kyla Sokoll-Ward
Hillel of San Diego at UCSD
San Diego, CA

Ms. Danielle Natelson
UCLA Hillel
Los Angeles, CA

Rachel Kaplan
Long Beach Hillel
Long Beach, CA

Rachel Marks
Temple Beth El
San Pedro, CA

Rabbi Debbie Israel
Congregation Emeth
Morgan Hill, CA

Ms. Daria Jacobs-Velde
Sebastopol, CA

Cantor Ruth
Pasadena Jewish Temple and Center
Pasadena, CA

Rabbi David Young
Congregation B'nai Tzedek
Fountain Valley, CA


Rabbi Victor Gross
Pardes Levavot
Boulder, CO

Rabbi Fred Greene
Congregation Har HaShem
Boulder, CO


Cantor Deborah Katchko Gray
Congregation Shir Shalom
Ridgefield, CT

Rabbi Rachel Bearman
Temple B'nai Chaim
Georgetown, CT  

Ms. Juli Goodman
Slifka Center / Yale Hillel
New Haven, CT

District of Columbia

Rabbi Sue Shankman
Washington Hebrew Congregation
Washington, DC


Ms. Erica Hruby
Central Florida Hillel
Orlando, FL

Cantor Alicia Stillman
Temple Judea
Palm Beach Gardens, FL

Rabbi Daniel Treiser
Temple B'nai Israel
Clearwater, FL

Rabbi Cheryl Weiner
Temple Israel
Miami, FL


Rabbi Holly Levin Cohn
Temple B'nai Israel
Albany, GA

Leah Zigmond
Camp Judaea
Atlanta, GA


Rabbi Paul F. Cohen, D.Min.
Temple Jeremiah
Northfield, IL

Rabbi Margaret Frisch Klein
Congregation Kneseth Israel
Elgin, IL

Rabbi Wendi Geffen
North Shore Congregation Israel
Glencoe, IL

Rabbi Nina J. Mizrahi
Or Shalom
Vernon Hills, IL

Rabbi Paul F. Cohen
Temple Jeremiah
Northfield, IL

Rabbi Rebecca Dubowe
Moses Montefiore Congregation
Bloomington, IL

Cantor Andrea Rae Markowicz
Am Shalom
Glencoe, IL


Rachel Gross-Prinz
Temple Bnai Israel
Kokomo, IN


Rabbi Getzel Davis
Harvard Hillel
Cambridge, MA

Ms. Harriet Feinstein
Temple Ner Tamid
Peabody, MA    

Cantor Ken Richmond
Temple Israel
Natick, MA

Rabbi Howard Cohen
Congregation Shirat Hayam
Marshfield, MA


Rabbi Fred Scherlinder Dobb
Adat Shalom Reconstructionist Congregation
Bethesda, MD

Rabbi Jonah Layman
Shaare Tefila Congregation
Olney, MD

Rabbi Ari Sunshine
B’nai Shalom of Olney
Olney, MD

Rabbah Arlene Berger
Olney Kehila
Olney, MD

Rabbi Stephen Weisman
Temple Solel
Bowie, MD

Rabbi Julie K. Gordon
Adat Shalom Reconstructionist Congregation
Bethesda, MD    

Rabbi Baht Weiss
Temple Beth Ami
Rockville, MD

Cantor Jan Morrison
Columbia Jewish Congregation
Columbia, MD


Rabbi Marla Hornsten
Temple Israel
West Bloomfield, MI

Rabbi Dan Horwitz
Temple Israel
West Bloomfield, MI

Rabbi Lisa Stella
University of Michigan Hillel
Ann Arbor, MI

Mr. Scott Gellman
Temple Beth Israel
Bay City/Saginaw, MI

New Jersey

Rabbi Laurence P. Malinger
Temple Shalom
Aberdeen Township, NJ

Rabbi Joel N. Abraham
Temple Sholom
Scotch Plains, NJ

Rabbi Laurence P. Malinger
Temple Shalom
Aberdeen Township, NJ

Rabbi Monica Kleinman
Adath Emanu-El
Mt. Laurel, NJ 

Rabbi Sara Rich
Hillel at Princeton University
Princeton, NJ

Rabbi Alexandra Klein
Temple Sharey-Tefilo Israel
South Orange, NJ

Rabbi Steven N. Fineblum
Temple Sinai
Summit, NJ

Rabbi David Klatzker
Temple Emanuel of the Pascack Valley
Woodcliff Lake, NJ

Cantor Wayne Krieger
Marlboro Jewish Center
Marlboro, NJ

New York

Rabbi Ari Lorge
Central Synagogue
New York, NY

Rabbi Jim Stoloff
Temple Israel of the City of New York
New York, NY

Fran Pearlman
Congregation Habonim
New York, NY

Rabbi Ben Zeidman
Congregation Emanu-El of the City of New York
New York, NY

Rabbi Rachel Ain
Sutton Place Synagogue
New York, NY

Rabbi Melissa Buyer
Temple Israel of the City of New York
New York, NY

Rabbi Heidi Hoover
Temple Beth Emeth v'Ohr Progressive Shaari Zedek
Brooklyn, NY

Rabbi Paula Mack Drill
Orangetown Jewish Center
Orangeburg, NY

Rabbi Shira Milgrom
Congregation Kol Ami
White Plains, NY

Rabbi Judy Cohen-Rosenberg
Community Reform Temple
Westbury, NY

Barbara Goldman-Wartell
Temple Concord
Binghamton, NY

Rabbi Lina Zerbarini
Weinberger Center for Jewish Life and Learning
Sid Jacobson Jewish Community Center
East Hills, NY

Ms. Barbara Dworkin
Congregation Ohav Shalom
Albany, NY

Ms. Anat Guez
Colgate University
Hamilton, NY

Ms. Rachel Landman
Hamilton College Hillel
Clinton, NY

Rabbi Jaymee Alpert
Congregation Kneses Tifereth Israel
Port Chester, NY

Rabbi Jason Nevarez
Temple Shaaray Tefila
Bedford Corners, NY

Rabbi Leah Berkowitz
Vassar Temple
Poughkeepsie, NY

Rabbi Sharon Sobel
Temple Isaiah
Stony Brook, NY

North Carolina

Rabbi Leah Citrin
Temple Beth Or
Raleigh, NC

Marsha Stickler
Temple Beth El
Charlotte, NC

Michelle Horowitz
NC Hillel
Chapel Hill, NC


Marina Tecktiel Yergin
Hillel of Miami University of Ohio
Oxford, OH

Brian Nelson
Valley Temple
Wyoming, OH

Rachael Jackson
Bnai Abraham
Portsmouth, OH

Leah Citrin
Rockdale Temple
Cincinnati, OH

Rabbi Judy Chessin
Temple Beth Or
Dayton, OH

Adam Bellows
Cincinnati, OH


Rabbi Ron Muroff
Chisuk Emuna Congregation
Harrisburg, PA 

Andrea Freier
Congregation Or Shalom
Vernon Hills, IL
Cantor Elena Zarkh
Old York Road Temple Beth Am
Abington, PA

Rochelle Sufrin
Rodef Shalom/Women of Reform Judaism, Atlantic District
Pittsburgh, PA

Rabbi Daniel Swartz
Temple Hesed
Scranton, PA

South Dakota

Rabbi Sara Otero-Eiser
Synagogue of the Hills
Rapid City, SD


Rabbi Steven Morgen
Congregation Beth Yeshurun
Houston, TX

Jenna Hockema
Hillels of North Texas
Denton, TX and Dallas, TX

Rabbi Ottenstein
Congregation Beth-El
Fort Worth, TX

Rabbi Asher Knight
Temple Emanu-El
Dallas, TX


Rabbi Howard Cohen
Congregation Beth El    
Bennington, VT


Rabbi Amy Schwartzman
Temple Rodef Shalom
Falls Church, VA

Chana Leslie Glazer
Beth Israel Synagogue
Roanoke VA

Melissa Kansky
Brody Jewish Center, Hillel at UVA
Charlottesville, VA


Rabbi Jason Levine
Temple Beth Am
Seattle, WA

Rabbi Seth Goldstein
Temple Beth Hatfiloh
Olympia, WA


Rabbi Andrea Steinberger
Hillel at the University of Wisconsin
Madison, WI

Rabbi Rachel Marks
Congregation Shalom
Milwaukee, WI

Rabbi Jonathan Biatch
Temple Beth El
Madison, WI