About Shamor L'Amour

We tell our congregants that on Shabbat we hold two commandments sacred: “shamor v’zachor” – protect and remember. But to truly create a sacred space in the home for Shabbat, we must have a home that is at peace; a home of loving, healthy relationships and connections; a home where love is protected. During February, we invite you, your Shabbat table, and your congregation to celebrate a very special Shabbat – a Shabbat of “Shamor L’Amour."

JWI’s Clergy Task Force to End Domestic Abuse has created a toolbox of resources that will help your congregation discuss, explore and celebrate healthy relationships. 

Our Shabbat Guide

Relationships matter, and creating the space and time to reflect on them can be difficult. The gift of Shabbat—of laughing and singing with friends as we eat our Friday night dinner—gives us those opportunities to let those we love know that we love them.

Our Shabbat guide, from our award-winning series, Women, Relationships & Jewish Texts helps us take our Shabbat conversations to a deeper level. With each page, you'll find traditional readings from Shabbat liturgy followed by an interpretation that allows us to think about the text through a new lens. Suggested questions will prompt thoughtful discussions about creating and nurturing healthy relationships.

The guide is perfect for your Shabbat table or any time you may gather with family and friends. Be it in your home, your synagogue, your school, or any communal space, we hope it will inspire a deeper layer of conversation and ideas that will carry over into your everyday life.

Why a healthy Relationship Shabbat?

Part of the wisdom of the Shabbat tradition, is that we are given a moment to turn to those we love and tell them we love them. Even more, we have the opportunity to actually bless one another. Too often these moments are passed over in our day-to-day interactions--replaced by the pressing needs of the moment.

But every relationship, even the strongest, deserves a check-in, and thus, our call to host a "Healthy Relationship Shabbat." Here, we give ourselves the gift of a conversation, inspired by the teachings and readings of Shabbat, about how to strengthen and protect the relationships that are most important -- Shamor l'Amour.


The materials for Shamor L'Amour were created by our Clergy Task Force, who represent all denominations of Judaism. Materials include sermon sparks for each Shabbat in February and our discussion guide, "Rethinking Shabbat: Women, Relationships and Jewish Texts". We've also created a set of printable Conversation Cards, for use at your Shabbat table. 

Social Media Toolkit

The Social Media Toolkit for Shamor L'Amour includes banner images for social media and emails, as well as the Shamor L'Amour logo. We would love to see your photos and posts from your Shabbat: tag us @JewishWomenIntl on all platforms, and use #ShamorLAmour! 


Q: What are some of the ways this guide can be used?
A: Our dream is for the guide to be used as a part of Shabbat table discussions, in homes, on campuses, in synagogues – wherever and whenever people gather together to share Friday night dinner. Imagine inviting a group of friends for a Shabbat meal that includes intellectual conversations about relationships, in addition to delicious food!

Q: Is this guide for women only?
A: No, not at all. Men are often part of the equation of a healthy relationship, and we hope they’ll join the conversation!

Q: What is the recommended amount of time for the program?
A: Forty-five minutes to an hour will allow you to introduce the guide, read one text and commentary, and begin a conversation. An hour to 1 ½ hours would allow you to select readings from each of the three themes and have substantial conversations about each of them. If the group is really engaged, you can always plan to continue the discussion at a later date.

Q: What if the group does not feel comfortable reading Hebrew texts?
A: This guide is designed to be accessible to everyone. Each text is in its original language, transliterated and translated into English. Let the participants decide which language they prefer to use.

Q: What needs to be done before the discussion takes place?
A: Simply assign one person the responsibility to read the entire guide and to select the texts and commentaries that will be used for discussion. Alternatively, a more informal, free-flowing discussion may be fitting depending on the nature of the group. Either way, make sure each participant has a guide to follow.

Q: What is the format for the program?
A: Once everyone is seated, the ‘leader’ should explain the goals of the program, the themes that will be discussed, and, briefly, some reasons for sharing this resource. Participants may be asked to say or think of the name of someone in whose honor or memory they want to devote this study. Ask for volunteers to read the text in its original or translation (or both) and the commentary out loud. Try to ensure that everyone who wants to read has an opportunity to do so. Use the accompanying prompts to begin the conversation and encourage everyone to participate. If a prompt doesn’t lead to a vibrant conversation, move on to the next. If there is additional material to cover when the allotted time is over, then make plans to get together again.

Q: Are there guides like this one for other holidays?
A: Yes, the “Rethinking” series also includes guides for Purim, Sukkot and Shavuot. If you have any questions or want to share feedback, please email Deborah Rosenbloom at [email protected]. We’d love to hear from you!

With thanks to the Shamor L’Amour committee:

Rabbi Leah Citrin (chair), Temple Beth Or, Raleigh, NC
Cantor Debbie Katchko-Gray, Congregation Shir Shalom, Ridgefield, CT
Rabbi Howard Cohen, Congregation Shirat HaYam, Bennington, VT
Rabbi Ari Lorge, Central Synagogue, New York, NY
Rabbi Marla Hornsten, Temple Israel, West Bloomfield, MI
Rabbi Donna Kirschbaum, editor of the “Rethinking Shabbat” guide


(Prior & Current)


Rabbi Jonathan Sadoff
Kehillat Magen Avraham
Omer, Israel

Rabbi Donna Kirshbaum
Omer, Israel

Cara Frazin
Bat Melech
Jerusalem, Israel

Samantha Ben Avraham
Samantha Israel Tours
Ashdod, Israel

Al Benarroch
Jewish Child and Family Service
Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada

Sarah Caspi
JFS Ottawa
Ottawa, Ontario, Canada

Rav Sean Gorman
Pride of Israel Synagogue
Toronto, Canada

Rabbi Jordan Helfman
Holy Blossom Temple
Toronto, Canada

Allie Novack
The House
Toronto, Canada

Rabbi Nicole K. Roberts
North Shore Temple Emanuel
Chatswood, NSW, Australia  

Rabbi Gesa S. Ederberg
Gemeinderabbinerin der Juedischen Gemeinde zu Berlin
Synagoge Oranienburger Strasse
Berlin, Germany


Rabbi Stephanie Aaron
Congregation Chaverim
Tucson, AZ

Rabbi Jessica Rosenthal
Temple B'rith Shalom
Prescott, Arizona


Judith Beiner
Jewish Family and Career Services
Atlanta, GA


Mindy Shipon
Moishe House San Diego Pacific Beach
La Jolla, CA

Rabbi Michelle Missaghieh
Temple Israel
Hollywood, Los Angeles, CA

Rabbi Sarah Bassin
Temple Emanuel of Beverly Hills
Beverly Hills, CA

Ms. Glenda Sacks Jaffe
Hillel of San Diego
San Diego, CA

Ms. Leah Kahn
Berkeley Hillel
Berkeley, CA

Ms. Kyla Sokoll-Ward
Hillel of San Diego at UCSD
San Diego, CA

Ms. Danielle Natelson
UCLA Hillel
Los Angeles, CA

Rachel Kaplan
Long Beach Hillel
Long Beach, CA

Rachel Marks
Temple Beth El
San Pedro, CA

Rabbi Debbie Israel
Congregation Emeth
Morgan Hill, CA

Ms. Daria Jacobs-Velde
Sebastopol, CA

Cantor Ruth
Pasadena Jewish Temple and Center
Pasadena, CA

Rabbi David Young
Congregation B'nai Tzedek
Fountain Valley, CA

Kelsey Friedman
Jewish Family and Children's Services
San Francisco, CA

Diane Rose
Cool Shul
Los Angeles, CA

Steven Reuben
Kehillat Israel
Pacific Palisades, CA


Rabbi Victor Gross
Pardes Levavot
Boulder, CO

Rabbi Fred Greene
Congregation Har HaShem
Boulder, CO


Rabbi PJ Schwartz
Temple Israel
Westport, CT

Rabbi Debra Cantor
B'nai Tikvoh-Sholom
Bloomfield, CT

Cantor Deborah Katchko Gray
Congregation Shir Shalom
Ridgefield, CT

Rabbi Rachel Bearman
Temple B'nai Chaim
Georgetown, CT  

Ms. Juli Goodman
Slifka Center / Yale Hillel
New Haven, CT

Rabbi David Reiner
Congregation Shir Shalom of Westchester and Fairfield Counties
New Haven, CT

District of Columbia

Rabbi Susan Shankman
Washington Hebrew Congregation
Washington, DC

Rabbi Hannah Spiro
Hill Havurah
Washington, DC


Rabbi Goldie Milgram
Reclaiming Judaism
Sarasota, FL

Ms. Erica Hruby
Central Florida Hillel
Orlando, FL

Cantor Alicia Stillman
Temple Judea
Palm Beach Gardens, FL

Rabbi Daniel Treiser
Temple B'nai Israel
Clearwater, FL

Rabbi Cheryl Weiner
Temple Israel
Miami, FL

Gail Allen
Gulf Coast Jewish Family Services
Clearwater, FL


Rabbi Beth Schwartz
Temple Israel
Columbus, GA

Rabbi Holly Levin Cohn
Temple B'nai Israel
Albany, GA

Leah Zigmond
Camp Judaea
Atlanta, GA


Rabbi Paul F. Cohen, D.Min.
Temple Jeremiah
Northfield, IL

Rabbi Margaret Frisch Klein
Congregation Kneseth Israel
Elgin, IL

Rabbi Wendi Geffen
North Shore Congregation Israel
Glencoe, IL

Rabbi Nina J. Mizrahi
Or Shalom
Vernon Hills, IL

Rabbi Paul F. Cohen
Temple Jeremiah
Northfield, IL

Rabbi Rebecca Dubowe
Moses Montefiore Congregation
Bloomington, IL

Cantor Andrea Rae Markowicz
Am Shalom
Glencoe, IL

Samantha Spolter
Chicago, IL


Rachel Gross-Prinz
Temple Bnai Israel
Kokomo, IN


Ms. Harriet Feinstein
Temple Ner Tamid
Peabody, MA    

Cantor Ken Richmond
Temple Israel
Natick, MA

Rabbi Howard Cohen
Congregation Shirat Hayam
Marshfield, MA

Emily DeBenedictis
Jeanne Geiger Crisis Center
Amesbury , MA


Rabbi Fred Scherlinder Dobb
Adat Shalom Reconstructionist Congregation
Bethesda, MD

Rabbi Jonah Layman
Shaare Tefila Congregation
Olney, MD

Rabbi Ari Sunshine
B’nai Shalom of Olney
Olney, MD

Rabbah Arlene Berger
Olney Kehila
Olney, MD

Rabbi Stephen Weisman
Temple Solel
Bowie, MD

Rabbi Julie K. Gordon
Adat Shalom Reconstructionist Congregation
Bethesda, MD    

Rabbi Baht Weiss
Temple Beth Ami
Rockville, MD

Rabbi Sonya Starr
Columbia Jewish Congregation
Columbia, MD

Elissa Schwartz
Rockville, MD


Rabbi Marla Hornsten
Temple Israel
West Bloomfield, MI

Rabbi Dan Horwitz
Temple Israel
West Bloomfield, MI

Rabbi Lisa Stella
University of Michigan Hillel
Ann Arbor, MI

Mr. Scott Gellman
Temple Beth Israel
Bay City/Saginaw, MI

Shari-Beth Goldman
Jewish Family Service
West Bloomfield, MI


Margaret Butler
Hillel at Washington University
St. Louis, MO

Monica Sass
Hillel at Washington University
St. Louis, MO


Francine Roston
Glacier Jewish Community/B'nai Shalom
Whitefish, MT

North Carolina

Maya Weinstein
Judea Reform Durham/UNC Hillel
Chapel Hill, NC

Dusty Klass
Temple Beth El
Charlotte, NC

New Jersey

Rabbi Robert Wolkoff
Congregation B'nai Tikvah
North Brunswick, NJ

Rabbi David Klatzker
Cranford, NJ

Rabbi Laurence P. Malinger
Temple Shalom
Aberdeen Township, NJ

Rabbi Joel N. Abraham
Temple Sholom
Scotch Plains, NJ

Rabbi Laurence P. Malinger
Temple Shalom
Aberdeen Township, NJ

Rabbi Monica Kleinman
Adath Emanu-El
Mt. Laurel, NJ

Rabbi Sara Rich
Hillel at Princeton University
Princeton, NJ

Rabbi Alexandra Klein
Temple Sharey-Tefilo Israel
South Orange, NJ

Rabbi Steven N. Fineblum
Temple Sinai
Summit, NJ

Rabbi David Klatzker
Temple Emanuel of the Pascack Valley
Woodcliff Lake, NJ

Cantor Wayne Krieger
Marlboro Jewish Center
Freehold, NJ

Hazzan Alisa Pomerantz-Boro
Congregation Beth El
Voorhees, NJ

Rabbi Richard Hirsh
Congregation M'kor Shalom
Cherry Hill, NJ

Rabbi Cathy Felix
Temple Beth Am
Bayonne, NJ

New York

Rabbi Ari Lorge
Central Synagogue
New York, NY

Rabbi Jim Stoloff
Temple Israel of the City of New York
New York, NY

Fran Pearlman
Congregation Habonim
New York, NY

Rabbi Ben Zeidman
Congregation Emanu-El of the City of New York
New York, NY

Rabbi Rachel Ain
Sutton Place Synagogue
New York, NY

Rabbi Melissa Buyer
Temple Israel of the City of New York
New York, NY

Rabbi Heidi Hoover
Temple Beth Emeth v'Ohr Progressive Shaari Zedek
Brooklyn, NY

Rabbi Paula Mack Drill
Orangetown Jewish Center
Orangeburg, NY

Rabbi Shira Milgrom
Congregation Kol Ami
White Plains, NY

Rabbi Judy Cohen-Rosenberg
Community Reform Temple
Westbury, NY

Barbara Goldman-Wartell
Temple Concord
Binghamton, NY

Rabbi Lina Zerbarini
Weinberger Center for Jewish Life and Learning
Sid Jacobson Jewish Community Center
East Hills, NY

Ms. Barbara Dworkin
Congregation Ohav Shalom
Albany, NY

Ms. Anat Guez
Colgate University
Hamilton, NY

Ms. Rachel Landman
Hamilton College Hillel
Clinton, NY

Rabbi Jaymee Alpert
Congregation Kneses Tifereth Israel
Port Chester, NY

Rabbi Jason Nevarez
Temple Shaaray Tefila
Bedford Corners, NY

Rabbi Leah Berkowitz
Vassar Temple
Poughkeepsie, NY

Rabbi Sharon Sobel
Temple Isaiah
Stony Brook, NY

Rabbi Mark Kaiserman

The Reform Temple of Forest Hills
Forest Hills, NY

North Carolina

Rabbi Leah Citrin
Temple Beth Or
Raleigh, NC

Marsha Stickler
Temple Beth El
Charlotte, NC

Michelle Horowitz
NC Hillel
Chapel Hill, NC

Melissa Simon
North Carolina Hillel at UNC-Chapel Hill
Chapel Hill, NC


Debi Varland
Jewish Family Service
Cincinnati, OH

Marina Tecktiel Yergin
Hillel of Miami University of Ohio
Oxford, OH

Brian Nelson
Valley Temple
Wyoming, OH

Rachael Jackson
Bnai Abraham
Portsmouth, OH

Rabbi Leah Citrin
Rockdale Temple
Cincinnati, OH

Rabbi Judy Chessin
Temple Beth Or
Dayton, OH

Adam Bellows
Cincinnati, OH


Rabbi Nina Mandel
Congregation Beth El-Sunbury
Sunbury, PA

Kami Knapp
Arcadia University Hillel
Glenside, PA

Rabbi Ron Muroff
Chisuk Emuna Congregation
Harrisburg, PA

Andrea Freier
Congregation Or Shalom
Vernon Hills, IL
Cantor Elena Zarkh
Old York Road Temple Beth Am
Abington, PA

Rochelle Sufrin
Rodef Shalom/Women of Reform Judaism, Atlantic District
Pittsburgh, PA

Rabbi Daniel Swartz
Temple Hesed
Scranton, PA

Laura Fehl
Women of Temple Sinai
Pittsburgh, PA

Rabbi Danielle Leshaw
Hillel International
Pittsburgh, PA

Rabbi Barbara Symons
Temple David
Monroeville, PA

South Dakota

Rabbi Sara Otero-Eiser
Synagogue of the Hills
Rapid City, SD


Rabbi Steven Morgen
Congregation Beth Yeshurun
Houston, TX

Jenna Hockema
Hillels of North Texas
Denton, TX and Dallas, TX

Rabbi Ottenstein
Congregation Beth-El
Fort Worth, TX

Rabbi Asher Knight
Temple Emanu-El
Dallas, TX

Jordan Magidson
Temple Beth Shalom
Austin, TX

Rabbi Amy Cohen
Temple Beth Shalom
Austin, TX


Jan Salzman
Ruach haMaqom
Burlington, VT

Rabbi Howard Cohen
Congregation Shirat HaYam    
Bennington, VT


Rabbi Amy Schwartzman
Temple Rodef Shalom
Falls Church, VA

Chana Leslie Glazer
Beth Israel Synagogue
Roanoke VA

Melissa Kansky
Brody Jewish Center, Hillel at UVA
Charlottesville, VA

Wendi Fried
Congregation Beth El, Norfolk
Norfolk, VA


Rabbi Jason Levine
Temple Beth Am
Seattle, WA

Rabbi Seth Goldstein
Temple Beth Hatfiloh
Olympia, WA


Rabbi Andrea Steinberger
Hillel at the University of Wisconsin
Madison, WI

Rabbi Rachel Marks
Congregation Shalom
Milwaukee, WI

Rabbi Jonathan Biatch
Temple Beth El
Madison, WI

Anna Goldstein
Milwaukee Jewish Federation
Milwaukee, WI


Kathy Steward
Safehouse Services
Cheyenne, WY